At work and in Life
In big and small organizations alike, a lot of focus is given to interpersonal relationships and communication, and rightly so. The success of any business heavily relies on the relationships the teams have among themselves as well as with their clients. The level of openness in these relationships and the clarity in the communication is what determines – to a great extent – the success and sustainability of an organization.
So, yes, focusing and cultivating the skill of building relationships and developing the ability to share ideas and communicate genuinely and effectively is of utmost importance at work, and in life in general.
BUT, as far as relationships are concerned, there’s one relationship that is usually overlooked, when in reality it is the invisible force that drives us all, and that is the relationship we have with ourselves.
On an intellectual level, we all know that we have a relationship with ourselves, after all we are the ones who hear the monologues (or sometimes dialogues) happening inside our minds. Knowing this intellectually is not enough though, we must know it on another level too – a heart level. Like any relationship we have in our lives, the relationship we have with ourselves starts with knowing – truly knowing – who we are. Not who we used to be or who we wish we were.
Sounds simple, doesn’t it?
Surprisingly, many of the clients and people I interact with come to me with frustrations like these: “I don’t know what I want”, “I don’t know why I reacted this way in this situation”, “I thought I could do it, but then I froze”.
What I hear in these conversations is what I can summarize in one sentence: “I don’t know who I am”.
And I get it. Knowing who we are is not always easy, but it is critical for our success and our emotional wellbeing. You see, if we don’t have a deep level of understanding of ourselves, why we behave the way we do, what drives us or what makes us happy, it’s likely that we will find ourselves being pulled in different directions and easily influenced by the opinions of others. We may find ourselves lost, in our own lives.
When was the last time you checked in with yourself and asked: who am I?